Love After Divorce? Kaffy Reveals Harsh Realities Of Dating As A Single Mother

Renowned dancer, Kafayat Shafau, popularly known as Kaffy, has opened up about the struggles of dating as a single mother.

Speaking as a guest on the popular podcast, The Honest Bunch, Kaffy — who is divorced from her ex-husband, Joseph Ameh — revealed that a man once bluntly told her he could never be in a relationship with her simply because she already has two children.

She said:

“I’ve had someone tell me he couldn’t date me because I’m a single mother with two kids. But what makes people think a divorced woman isn’t an even better candidate, especially if she has worked on herself? What’s the guarantee that two single people won’t end up divorced tomorrow? Why do people feel they must marry someone ‘fresh’? At the end of the day, we’re all entering the same statistics that say over 70% of marriages crash. You might just end up being part of that 70%.”

Kaffy also touched on the misconceptions about love, dismissing the idea that “butterflies in the stomach” define true affection.

“Do you know that a lot of those butterflies in the tummy are actually a trauma response? Real love is supposed to bring peace, not anxiety. True love calms you — it doesn’t make you restless,” she added.