If I Come To You After Our Quarrel — Man Reveals His Unusual Way Of Apologising

A Nigerian man has sparked debate over relationships and marriage after sharing his perspective on how some husbands attempt to reconcile with their wives following disagreements.

Speaking during an episode of the FamilyClinic Podcast, the man urged married women to understand that some men may find it difficult to verbally apologise after an argument and may instead express remorse through other forms of affection.

According to Bush Radio Academy, he explained that some husbands may see physical intimacy as a way of communicating that they want to make peace after a quarrel.

“As your husband now, if I offend you, there are times some men, they don’t really know how to say sorry. You need to understand your husband. That’s the truth,” he said.

He added, “If I’m coming to make love to you, that means I’m trying to make up with you. Let’s be realistic. Will I make up with my enemy? You’re my wife, and I know say me and you don quarrel. Some men, their love language is sex. Some men are like that.”

The man further stated that some husbands may combine physical affection with sweet words as a way of showing that they want to resolve a disagreement instead of directly saying, “I’m sorry.”

He questioned whether a husband needs to make an elaborate gesture before his wife recognises that he is attempting to settle a quarrel.

“If I come to you and I start touching you, and I start telling you sweet words, that’s the apology already. I don dey apologise be that,” he said.

He added humorously, “Is it until I get Davido and carry live bands before you forgive? Because I mistakenly insult you doesn’t stop me from touching you.”

The remarks have generated mixed reactions online, with some viewers agreeing that people have different ways of expressing affection and remorse, while others argued that verbal apologies remain important when one partner has been hurt.

The discussion has consequently highlighted differences in how couples communicate, express remorse and attempt to resolve conflicts within marriage.