Bashir El-Rufai’s Ex-Wife Reveals Shocking Truth: ‘I Knew Our Marriage Would End

Halima Kazaure, the former wife of Bashir El-Rufai, son of former Kaduna State Governor Nasir El-Rufai, has opened up about the end of her marriage and the realities of raising her twin sons as a single mother.

Kazaure disclosed that her marriage to Bashir ended in 2024, when their twin boys were just two years old.

She shared her experience in a personal essay titled “Memoirs of a Single Nigerian Twin Mum with ADHD,” published on her Substack on Wednesday.

In the essay, the lawyer reflected on divorce, motherhood, relationships, heartbreak and the emotional struggles she faced while trying to maintain an image of strength despite her personal challenges.

Kazaure revealed that she had long been sceptical about marriage because of the relationships she witnessed while growing up. She said those experiences made her enter her own marriage with doubts about whether it would stand the test of time.

According to her, she almost expected the marriage to fail even before it began.

The collapse of the relationship, she explained, eventually left her confronting the challenges of raising her children on her own.

She wrote:

“I became a single mother when my boys were two. My marriage ended in 2024. The truth is that I had never had much faith in marriage. I didn’t grow up surrounded by enough examples that convinced me men were particularly safe places to put your heart. Somewhere inside me, I think I knew my marriage would end before it even began. Imagine entering a marriage already preparing for its funeral.

“Then my marriage actually ended. And somehow, several months later, I fell in love again. Of course I did. For someone with so little faith in men, I have a ridiculous amount of faith in love. I trusted again. Hoped again. Imagined again. And got my heart broken again.

“There is a saying that men will stain your white. The irony is that I love wearing white. I spent almost an entire month wearing white to work. This is a terrible choice because I am clumsy and perpetually rushing. My friend at work asks me: ‘Why do you bother wearing white? Every time we eat, you stain yourself?’”