Do Not Cheat Back!’ — Actress Ese Eriata Reveals What She Calls The Biggest Payback

In a post shared on her Instagram page, the reality TV star said many women who give their best in marriage still face betrayal, but cautioned against taking advice that encourages retaliation through cheating.

She explained that cheating back does not provide closure, but instead reinforces emotional pain and makes recovery from betrayal even more difficult.

According to her, such actions can also delay healing and make it harder for women to identify warning signs in future relationships, as unresolved hurt may cloud judgment.

Eriata added that the greatest form of “payback” is personal growth and self-improvement, stressing the importance of becoming a better version of oneself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

She wrote: “Women are being betrayed despite giving their best in marriage, and sadly, broken people are busy advising them to cheat back.

“Cheating back will never give you closure. The moment you do it, you return to the same painful feeling of betrayal your husband caused you…”

She further noted that revenge cheating often leaves emotional emptiness, as it fails to address the real need for healing and self-worth.

Eriata also warned that unresolved emotional pain could lead to repeating unhealthy relationship patterns.

She encouraged women to focus on growth, deepen their relationship with God, and take time to choose partners who genuinely love and respect them.

“The biggest payback is becoming a version of yourself that even he cannot reach… If it cannot be fixed, let it go; do not cheat back,” she added.