Nigerian Father Of Four Issues Bold Warning: Don’t Marry A Man Who Calls Your Basic Desires ‘Extravagant

A Nigerian marriage therapist and father of four, Shamseddin Giwa, has advised women against marrying men who view basic life necessities as extravagances.....KINDLY READ THE FULL STORY HERE▶

His advice came after he saw a video where someone claimed that using a washing machine is a “sin,” insisting that “clothes must be hand-washed for the wife to receive the blessing attached.”

Sharing his thoughts on Facebook, Mr. Giwa wrote:
“True love is not measured by poverty or suffering. Don’t marry a man who calls you extravagant for wanting basic things.”

He added:
“Imagine how many young men go through life with that mindset. Life is already challenging enough—use whatever tools or methods are available to make it easier.”

He highlighted some practical points:

• Having a maid to help doesn’t mean you won’t teach your children.

• Pepper ground in a blender is just as effective and delicious.

• Frozen foods microwaved on a busy schedule can be a lifesaver.

• Washing machines are no longer a luxury.

The list goes on.

Gone are the days when marriage required women to master tasks like pounding with a mortar and pestle, making every vegetable soup from scratch, and sweeping an entire compound. Today, the qualities that make a marriage successful are deeper: intelligence, enlightenment, leadership, goal orientation, entrepreneurial spirit, versatility, financial stability, and general life coordination. These are the traits that not only help you get married but also make married life smoother.

Why struggle to do everything at once—sweeping, washing, cooking—when there are easier ways? The hard way is not the only way, nor is it the smartest. Surprisingly, it’s not always even the cheapest. Choosing easier, smarter methods doesn’t make you lazy, less of a wife, or less responsible.

Many forget that even mothers received help at some point—from maids, nieces, or relatives. If they had more support, they likely would have welcomed it and been happier.

Sometimes, these conveniences require financial resources we may not yet have, so we revert to traditional methods as we improve. That’s completely fine. But never forget: super wives are made from smart heads, not suffer heads.